Giorgio Salmistraro, MA, PGDC, Relationship counselling
92-94 Tooley Street
I trained as a counsellor and specialised in psychosexual and relationship therapy.
The majority of my work focus on singles and couples having relational and psychosexual problems regarding sharing of intimacy.
Another area of my work focuses on porn addiction and the correlated learned un-ability of being sexually intimate with a partner.
We all carry a certain level of trauma which affect our personal lives and our relationships in different manners.
Despite our difficult experiences we normally find ways to cope and sail through life the best we can but sometimes the emotional pain of feeling broken inside becomes unbearable and we need to learn and attend our own feelings with tenderness and compassion nurturing ourselves trough a therapeutic relational experience.
Therapy is a time of unconditional trust with another human being which in itself can normalize and repair what was perceived as broken or missing.
Our life experiences are stored inside us in multiple levels of meaning and they determined and shape who we are, how we see and perceive ourselves, how others see and perceive us, and how we relate with each other and as a couple.
There is always an invisible baggage we carry in our intimate relationship which is our family of origin history and unique way to relate which unconsciously becomes the model and the basis of future relationships.
To individuate and create new and original patterns of behavior and reciprocal acceptance is one of the greatest challenges for any couple which feel stuck in a loophole of endless repetition.
Therapy is a secure base from which you learn to explore yourself, your feelings, your family history. You will discover the multiple parts which constitute who you are as a person and what makes you to see the world in the unique way you do.
Each part has a personality, a way of being, its emotions and a reason for being there and 'create' with other parts who you are. Some parts are more dominants then others, some others are hidden and very shy, some are unknown in a shadow.
It is a fascinating journey of discovery and if done in a couple it will become even more interesting because it will be like looking into different mirrors though time.
The therapy I address the following relational issues:
- Sense of something missing or not right in the relationship
- Feeling alone in the relationship
- Lack of communication with partner
- Anger and jealousy issues
- Escalating arguments and circular arguments
- Impact of professional life on the relationship
- Work life balance and relationship
- Fertility issues
- Pre-nuptial Counselling.
- Adapting to marriage or becoming parents
- Feeling badly treated by your partner
- Violent traits of verbal abuse escalating toward physical abuse
- Repeating destructive toxic relationship patterns
- Patterns of infidelity.
- Commitment difficulties
- Divorce and separation
- Coping with a break up
In regards to specific sexual issues I offer treatment of the following conditions:
- Loss of desire and arousal difficulties;
- Erectile dysfunctions including rapid and delayed ejaculation;
- Orgasmic / anorgasmic problems;
- Sexual phobias or aversion;
- Sexual compulsive behaviour (sex addiction).
- Sexual orientation concerns
- Enriching a stagnant sex-life
Because the majority of our deep wounds come from being in relationship, our healing too emerges from being in a safe and secure relationship.
The first relationship we need to learn to entertain is with our self who is often the most disliked and the most abandoned. True healing happened when we start to like ourselves and enjoy our own company.
Only when we begin to appreciate who we are we can learn and appreciate the reality of another person.
Counselling helps to build a map giving you a deeper understanding of who you are in relation to yourself, your family of origin and the new family you may want to build.
In relating to others at work, with family and friends very often we replay and re-enact the wounds of the past. We repeat old patterns and very often we do not understand why we repeat the past.
Why do some people repeatedly chose violent and abusive partners and find difficult to recognize these forms of controlling behaviors as abusive?
I work integrating the best of the available therapeutic tools connecting emphatically at deep personal level with clients.
I work with couples applying Imago therapy, Internal Family System (IFS) and the Encounter models of couple therapy.
The therapy experience I provide is at all times safe, confidential, non-judgmental.
I abide by the code of ethics of the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) and to COSRT ethical framework.
My schedule is busy but I always endeavor to find ways to accommodate client's requests and try to be flexible. I am available to meet on most weekday evenings.
Training, qualifications & experience
MA, Peace Studies, Including conflict mediation skills. Middlesex University
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling, University East London.
MA in Clinical Hypnotherapy, Cressingham Training
NLP Practitioner, Cressingham Training.
Certificate in Counselling Supervision, Re-Vision.
Psychosexual and Relationship training, Middlesex University.
I am a member of BACP, COSRT and StopSO.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
One to one counselling from £45.00 for a 55 minute session.
One to one counselling sessions are normally conducted weekly.
Limited concessionary fees are available, please ask me for details.
Couples therapy £60.00 for a 55 minute session.
Because of room booking arrangements cancellations need to be notified at least 48 hours before the actual meeting.
There will be a charge for any missed appointments or cancellations without appropriate notice.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Evening appointments only and Saturday at midday
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
I offer low cost supervision to Counsellors and Trainees Student Counsellors at the rate of £35.00 per session.View supervision profile