Will I have to cry?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Virginia Sherborne MBACP (Accred.)
30th May, 2010
One of the things that can put people off seeking help from a counsellor is the worry that they will be expected to cry and 'let it all out'. Breaking down in front of someone else can be a daunting prospect, and men in particular find the whole idea off-putting.
However, counselling can be very effective without the client necessarily having to get upset or reveal every deepest feeling. A respectful counsellor will allow their client to reveal only as much as they are comfortable with, and will 'back off' if the client starts to feel very uncomfortable.
It is possible to use counselling as a quiet, safe space for privately contemplating you inner thoughts and feelings, with the counsellor acting as a resource and guide. As trust grows between client and counsellor, it may feel easier to touch on more difficult subjects. Instead of feeling exposed or bullied, the client feels safe and respected.
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