What to expect from the first session of therapy
Deciding to start psychotherapy or counselling can bring forth questions and doubts. Above all, most questions permeate in the first session, which is always laden with great expectancy.
Questions like 'What should I say?', 'Should I open up to my therapist straight away?', 'Will I feel comfortable speaking to my therapist?', 'How can I tell if my counsellor is the right one for me?', 'What should I expect from my first session of therapy?' and so on may arise.
Let’s examine these questions.
What should I say?
Usually the first consultation is a preliminary session that helps both therapist and client introduce each other and see if common ground is found for further collaboration. As the therapeutical process begins during the first interactions in the initial session, the therapist will gather information about the client and the specific reasons that brought them to ask for help. The first session is crucial to the client too, as they will eventually decide whether the counsellor is a good fit for them.
The therapist will usually guide the client through a series open-ended questions to assess their situation.
Should I open up to my therapist straight away?
There is no straightforward answer to this question as we all tend to follow our own instinct. For example, some try out therapy with a clear idea of their issues while others may feel confused and overwhelmed at the idea of pinpointing their case. Others may have mixed feelings about it and may experience troubles connecting all the dots when outlining their complex inner picture.
Some aspects of our suffering can elicit intense shame or guilt and therefore, building and establishing trust with a therapist has to be an essential prerequisite for opening up.
Some people find it quite easy to open up and talk comfortably from the beginning whereas others may find it tricky as they require more time and trust.
Will I feel comfortable speaking to the therapist?
Therapists and counsellors are trained to work and help people with psychological issues. They are able to create a comfortable and non-judgmental setting showing an active-listening attitude.
Obviously, each therapist differs from another in personality and type of training, so each counsellor will adopt a slightly different approach to the client. Also, we all have personal preferences when it comes to people.
Some clients prefer a straightforward and direct attitude, others may opt for a female therapist as opposed to a male therapist or vice-versa, or look for a therapist from a specific country or of a specific age.
How can I tell if the therapist is the right one for me?
The impression you will get from the first consultation will determine whether you want to embark upon the therapeutic journey with that specific therapist.
Beyond the therapist’s qualifications and specialism, the match for you will make you feel comfortable enough to open up by giving you food for thought.
What should I expect?
From a first session you may expect to start thinking about the reasons that brought you to counselling in the first place, as well as the causes and consequences related to what you regard to as an issue, along with your expectations and ultimately, motivation. Will may expect a welcoming, non-judgemental and confidential setting where you will feel comfortable about expressing your troubles.
But above all, the first consultation will give you interesting insight into the world of psychotherapy as a tool to provide you with a new perspective on and solutions to a particular issue.
About the author
Ilaria Tedeschi is a cognitive behavioural psychotherapist, BACP registered, working in Marylebone and Chelsea both in English and Italian, with adult and adolescent clients experiencing depressive, anxiety, sleep and relational issues.
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