Wave of light - baby loss awareness week (9th-15th October)
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Jenny Poirier Registered BACP Accredited Counsellor and EMDR Therapist
5th October, 20160 Comments
In our society we expect our children will out live us and that modern medicine will be able to cure any problems. It can be very shocking, then, to lose a baby.
With the loss of a baby, we lose our imagined future with that child whether the loss come through termination, miscarriage, SIDS, illness or accident. It can be very isolating as friends and family may also be in shock and do not know what to say. There is no term for a bereaved parent as if we cannot even bear to give it a name.
For bereaved parents, it is important for the loss to be acknowledged. In October several baby loss charities raise awareness with baby loss awareness week, 9th-15th October. We hope to unite with bereaved families in commemorating the babies who have died and encourage people to talk together and learn more about we can do to try to reduce the number of families affected by this loss and how support can be given.
Baby loss awareness week finishes on October 15th which is also international pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day with a 'Wave of light'. At 7pm you are invited to light a candle and leave it burning for an hour to remember all the babies who have died too soon. You can even take part digitally on facebook and Twitter by uploading your picture at 7pm and using #WaveOfLight.
Several charities have a network of befrienders where you be put in touch with other families who have experienced a similar loss or you might like to talk to a counsellor to gain support no matter whether the loss was recent or years ago.
A full list of baby loss support charities can be found via this link http://babyloss-awareness.org/charities/.
About the author
Jenny Poirier is an experienced registered BACP accredited counsellor working in private practice in Muswell Hill, London and for Mind in West Essex. She has a special interest in working with people affected by cancer, bereavement and trauma.
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