Try not to have a unhappy Christmas
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Beverley Chambers Qualified Counsellor, Relationship Issues - Reg. MBACP
21st December, 20150 Comments
Christmas time can be a depressing, lonely and anxious time for some people. It's not as the adverts and movies depict it and the majority of people try to live the fantasy of what can be impossible to achieve when you see people that may cause you pain, embarrass you, bring back memories that you would rather forget, yet here you are again back in the same position and having to deal with the aftermath for a long while after Christmas has ended.
Relate and the Samaritans are the main points of contact during this time (and January) to address the issues that have come to a head during the festive season.
Therefore, address it before it happens, put things in place to help make it manageable for you:
1. Ask for help to keep the person who always corners you and gets you upset. Make sure someone comes over when that happens or you learn to be assertive, which means saying "no".
2. If you expect from previous experience that you are going to be the butt of someone's jokes, change that around so that you either start the joke and then point out that now you can have fun about something else (and maybe have something planned).
3. If you have had a drink problem and you know there is going to be a lot of alcohol there and you feel you might relapse, you need to decide when do you leave or if you should go. Also, you may feel that people are watching you as they remember what you have been like when drinking, that is possible but remember, you are not that important to them and after a while they will be too busy enjoying the day that you will soon be forgotten, so relax and plan ahead and stick to it.
I know it is not easy but why allow one day to cause you so many problems when you can decide to change that? Be creative to make some changes.
Good luck and have a pleasant day.
About the author
I have worked for 18 years as a counsellor addressing issues such as depression, anxiety, trauma, sexual abuse, relationship issues, addiction to alcohol, therapy groups, family issues. My qualifications are; Diploma in Counselling and Group Work, DipSW, Alcohol Counsellor, Life Coach, Certificate Family Support Therapy, NADA Auricular Acupuncture.
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