This Valentines Day - how will you show your love?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Clare Norris Registered MBACP MA PGDIp BA Psychotherapist
12th February, 20130 Comments
Love is all around us this week; we can see it everywhere from the TV ads marketing dine in meals for two, the red roses on display in florists windows and from the sea of red when we walk into our local supermarkets with their vast display of Valentines cards and choccies, all there predominantly to entice you into spending your cash to show your partner that you love them.
But do these temporary gifts of affection show our loved ones that we truly love them? Or does it show them that we love them only on Valentines day? Are we pressured by the media and retail giants into being swept along with Valentines day, showing that we love our economy more by spending our cash?
It's a cynics view I know, and don't get me wrong; I'm secretly hoping I get a lovely bouquet of flowers, a card and some chocs on the 14th of February too!!
However, one has to wonder - how do couples show each other love? How do we know we're loved? How do we show our love? These are questions counsellors asks their clients and usually the answers don't hold any monetary value. It's more along the lines of 'he brings me a cup of tea in the morning'; 'my partner gives me a hug for no reason other than they wanted to'; 'he supports me in everything I do'; 'she's my best friend'; 'he listens to me'.
I know that life gets in the way and we're so busy living our lives that we sometimes forget to show our love for our partners; let's slow our lives down enough to show our love in a way our partners will like and feel loved by us - after all, we know what they like, don't we? We know what will make them feel extra special and loved without spending money.
So, my question to you is; 'how will you show your partner that you love them this Valentines day? And for the rest of the year?' You never know if we show them that we truly love them they may reciprocate with their love.
Happy Valentines Day!
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