The Mother - A psychodynamic/analytic understanding
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Smita Rajput Kamble, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist
20th February, 20110 Comments
The Mother is used as a broad term in psychodynamic thinking - it can include the environment in which a child grows as well as the actual mother. In some cases, the father is more maternal than the mother.
We have no control over who gives birth to us. It is the first and most powerful experience with another human being and much as we love and hate her in later life, we are deeply and irreversibly influenced by her - both genetically and psychologically.
She makes up our external world and her reflection falls within, in our internal world. Some of us idealise mothers, others feel ambivalent and another group hate their mothers. There is a big majority which sits in the middle, feeling all the feelings of love, hate and ambivalence.
In her absence, one begins to understand how much of her is in inside us -in one's internal world.
If we are able to create and maintain good relationships, overcome the troubled times and continue to live life in a deep and satisfying way,it is felt that there is a good mother inside, who prevails over the bad one (felt during bad times) and continues to feel that life is worth living.
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