Simplify Christmas and let go of the anxiety
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Avril Allen mBacp; UKCP
21st December, 20130 Comments
As Christmas approaches some people glisten with glee whilst others groan at the very thought. Christmas is one of those times when even normally easy-going folk can get stressed, but you can learn to manage your mind around the festive season. Simplifying your life is key.
Here are 5 ideas for you:
1) Enjoying yourself is infectious. When you take care of your own needs, others benefit too.
2) Entertaining? Do not try to be the perfect host. Provide the venue, warm welcome, goodwill and some refreshment - that’s it. It is up to your guests to entertain themselves and each other. Do you remember being around someone so intent on getting it right that they made you nervous? I do! Hmm...not very relaxing to be around, are they?
3) Simplify the "shoulds". See how many "shoulds", "oughts" and "musts” you can dismiss from your mind. When you start “should-ing”, ask yourself the question: “Who says so?” Are you
perhaps running an old mental programme which is past its sell-by-date? Free your mind and send those "shoulds" packing!
4) Keep a check on those great expectations – then your hopes won’t be dashed. Keep it simple again. For instance, when you think about Christmas Day - think "it will be a nice roast dinner" rather than getting worked up about all of the combined festivities of the day. That’s all. It is usually a whole lot more enjoyable than that. But if not – no bombing and crashing of emotions.
5) Make sure you take some time to relax and dream – it really does reap benefits in terms of enjoying your mind rather than fighting with it.
Simplifying is not easy - it takes skill and grace - but learning to simplify your mind sets you free.
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