Pregnancy - Yummy Mummy - Who Me?
17th April, 2010
It’s difficult when you have milk stains on your shirt, you smell faintly of sick, you can’t move without the obligatory baby wipes, and just as you try to get amorous with your hubby the little darling wakes up.
Yep, that’s the life of a new mother, you desperately try to get your body back in shape, but get tired and stressed so you end up eating rubbish and struggling with your weight, falling asleep with the baby across you on the rare occasion of him catching a post feed nap.
What do you do when your muffin top has turned into a cottage loaf and you are trying to find something fashionable to squeeze into for the coffee morning for new mums? You reluctantly pull on your comfy M&S pregnancy knickers that you vowed to throw away, because the Agent Provocateur undies you used to wear still get stuck half way up and are likely to cause you some serious damage.
Welcome to the world of competitive motherhood where the need to look glamorous, fashionable and completely fabulous (“… you mean this old thing, I’ve had it for ages.”) are more important than anything else. I have a personal belief that YMs are there just to make every other woman feel bad.
YMs don’t have stretch marks, they have a nanny to help out, go to the gym to see their personal trainer and consult their stylist as soon as they have given birth.
I never could understand why some women feel the need to hide the reality of motherhood no matter what stage they are in. We live in an age when we rarely express our feelings or emotions and yet some women cling to the need to hide behind make up and expensive clothes; I often wonder what happens to them behind closed doors when the kids are crying, the house is a mess and they desperately want to talk to someone.
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