Parenting: Resolving Disagreements
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Virginia Sherborne MBACP (Accred.)
1st June, 2010
The most helpful way to resolve disagreements is to find a win-win solution. This means that the chosen solution is acceptable to everyone involved, so that no one is having to put up with something they find unacceptable. It takes a full discussion where everyone gets an equal chance to give their suggested solutions without negative comments from the others.
A list is made of all the suggestions, then you work through the list until a solution is found that suits everyone. This way is good as no one feels down-trodden. Kids have great ideas and are creative thinkers. They will often come up with solutions that adults wouldn’t think of.
It teaches them a practical approach to problem solving they can take through life (at work, for example). It also teaches them respect for other people’s views and they like to take responsibility in this way. You can use this approach from quite an early age, e.g. with two 5 year olds squabbling over turns with a toy.
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