Low Mood - Weathering the Storms
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Geraldine Marsh PG Dip, MBACP
23rd February, 20140 Comments
Hitting a run of storms, one hunkers down, waiting it out. Why, you may ask, does it feel so stormy? Whats the reason? Sometimes in life when low mood hits you, you can find yourself wondering exactly the same thing. Why do I feel this way? Is this how it will be from now on – or how long exactly is this going to last? Is this how I will feel from now on – is this depression?
You are not alone in feeling frustrated or even angry with yourself for feeling low. What can make people even more frustrated with themselves is when the cause doesn’t seem obvious. A quick review of their lives reveals a decent enough job they (usually) like, a loving partner or family perhaps, and only the usual money worries. This simply makes things worse surely – as the ‘fault’ seems an internal one. And “why can’t I just be happy!”
Sunshine and happiness seem a long, long way away, how do you even start to feel better?
If you’ve ever received the advice about not tensing your body against the cold weather, that relaxing and walking will warm you up just as well - then one place to start would be to say don’t get angry and tense at yourself for how you feel. What would happen if you relaxed a bit, accepted that this is your weather at the moment and like weather, the certainty is things will change. Once you begin to relax, it can sometimes feel easier to review your life with more clarity.
Happiness is just such a lovely, big, round yellow word, and just as we can be amazed at how quickly the sun can come out after a shower – producing the most amazing of rainbows – so perhaps we don’t need any really big reasons to feel happy or that it can arrive easily and simply, by just letting moments happen. Focusing on the here and now helps. Taking time to notice beautiful things around you, spending time with people that make you feel good, focusing on the small things. Don't expect the big clouds to lift immediately. Be patient and kind to yourself. Any damage caused by your storm really can be patched up, and you won’t drown. Give yourself the help you need. Talking to a professional can help get you warmed up into some healthy thinking patterns that can support your mood. Until one day, the season will change once more, and you will be taking your jacket off, kicking back and smiling back at that big, ole sun.
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