Is happiness all it's cracked up to be?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Lucas Teague PGDip; MBACP (Reg) UKCP registered Psychotherapist
5th July, 20170 Comments
It seems to be the endless search within our contemporary culture… to find happiness. Our media and advertising continually tell us that what we all want to be happy and here is the way you can find it. Happiness seems to have become commodified and packaged for us. We just click a button on our computer and purchase happiness in one easy manoeuvre! We seek to buy our happiness, through bypassing an existential dichotomy; which is that our longings for happiness are continually pitched against what we suffer as our inherent limitations. Another way of viewing this is the difference between what we hope for and what our actual experience of the world is.
Therefore, psychotherapy, in particular, doesn’t promote the goal of therapy as being one of gaining happiness, but rather to embrace meaning instead. It is true, that we will experience moments of happiness. However, they are ephemeral and can neither be willed into existence or purchased.
So, what does it mean to embrace meaning in our lives?
I have seen how the pursuit of happiness is often in reaction to suffering. It’s as though happiness is seen as the eternal panacea that will cure all of us our ills and allow us to finally rest in peace. However, the reality of this position is that it often becomes its own form of purgatory, as the anxiety and pressure to find a “way out” through this pursuit brings its own unhappiness.
Living a life that gives a place to meaning, also means healing the gap between what we long for and the limitations we face in ourselves and the world we live in. It means learning to live with our suffering. It is fair to say that on the whole suffering gets a bad press these days. However, if suffering didn’t exist we would remain unconscious, dependent and fearful. It is a truism that we only begin to ask the important questions about ourselves and our lives when we are in pain. It is only from these choices to embrace and wrestle with these questions that we can begin to create a life filled with meaning for ourselves.
The purpose of psychotherapy is then, not to remove suffering, but to move through it towards a mind capable of holding the polarity of painful opposites. This isn’t an easy journey for anyone to make, but the journey allows us to embrace not only a deeper, more meaningful experience of the world. It also allows us to embrace who we truly are, without the need to hide from ourselves.
About the author
Lucas Teague PGDip; MBACP (Reg) UKCP registered psychotherapist.
Lucas practices as a transpersonal psychotherapist. His focus is working with the whole person, including mind, body and spirit. He has worked in private practice over a 10 year period providing a holistic approach in the treatment of depression, anxiety, addictions and bereavement.
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