Is addiction a choice?
When you condemn the heavy drinker on the street, or sneer at the people you consider to be junkies, just take a moment to realise that their substance was a solution to their emotional issues way before it became a problem. If you have ever dodged emotions by isolating, over eating, watching too much TV or skipping work, then you can relate. You don't sign up to the no feeling contract willingly, you just allow the substance to stop you from feeling.
If they had been able to read the small print, then not one addict would have willingly signed up for it. Common sense tells us that most people have little sympathy and don't want to understand. But before you judge please try to empathise. This is not something that people do to themselves on purpose and deliberately, addiction is a disease. Never curable but wholly manageable. It requires hard work, a positive attitude and healthy coping skills to stay sober. You can't choose the waves of life. However, you can learn to surf them.
Everybody deserves every chance to get better and get stronger, whatever their presenting issue may be. Ignorance is no excuse. To support someone to achieve active recovery is a continued privilege and honour. Though the numbers of those with an addiction may be relatively small, the impact this has on their families and wider community is immense. Everybody can recover, some people won't. We never know who will, so people should be given every chance to do so. Please give them the chance and don't be to quick to judge.
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