How To Snap Out Of A Bad Mind Set And Get Back On Track
19th April, 2010
Do you ever find yourself reacting to things instead of behaving? Lashing out at people, muttering mean remarks under your breath and generally not being the you you like the most?
We all have days when it feels like the whole world is annoying us and we're surrounded by idiots. We can start telling ourselves that we don’t suffer fools gladly and all the while your friends and family have to deal with you. Being snarky and grumpy.
However, the world isn’t just out to get you and you haven't been singled out for special treatment by a seemingly endless stream of people intent on annoying you. Perceiving the world in this way will only keep you stuck and frustrated, what's called for is some fresh perspective, an understanding that you have the choice about how you perceive what's going on in your life.
It’s in that moment when you can remind yourself that you have a choice about how you respond to what’s going on around you. You can behave instead of react – knee jerk style. It’s not easy because taking responsibility for yourself and your feelings is the road less traveled. It’s harder to do that. It’s much easier to play the victim and act like everyone else is to blame.
They aren’t to blame. The only one responsible for your feelings is you. Which is quite exciting if you think about it, because it means it's within your power to change. When you find yourself caught up in the cycle of blaming others and feeling like a victim, try to remind yourself to take a step back, take a deep breath and then commit to making a choice to behave differently. You can lovingly remind yourself that you don’t have to react immediately. You can remind yourself that your knee-jerk response may not be your best response.
If you can, try and draw your attention to your thoughts, which can sometimes seem like naughty children running around your head creating chaos. Remind yourself that you're in control of them as well, they’re not in control of you. Your thoughts about events, people, situations, myself…whatever are just thoughts. They aren’t facts. So try to start consciously think different thoughts.
When you start making conscious choices about your thoughts and behaviour, you may discover that you like yourself better and you're a much nicer person to everyone else.
So the next time you feel grumpy, moody, indignant and hacked off try taking a step back and consciously look at your choices, ask yourself how you would like to behave in the given situation rather than just going with your knee-jerk reaction.
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