How to ask questions to get results
14th September, 2009
Instead of asking "WHY?" start asking "WHAT?"
Asking "WHAT "moves you from the PAST (stuck and hopeless) to the PRESENT and FUTURE (identifying steps and taking action)
Why is this happening to me?
Why am I such a failure?
Why aren't I better at this?
Why can't I get it?
Whose fault was it?
Who did what?
What do I need to get through this?
What will get me what I want ?
What can I do to improve?
What do I need to know to understand?
What is the solution?
What would have made a difference?
Write down all the complaints and issues you have in your life right now.
Then record all the bewildering and frustrating information questions you've been asking.
Why is this happening?
Why did I do that?
How will we ever ... ?
Now write down all the powerful what questions that belong to your situation
What can be said that I have not said?
How can we both get our needs met?
Next answer all the questions and notice the difference
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