For Crying Out Loud
27th July, 20110 Comments
Have you had a good cry recently? Probably not, if you're like most of the population. Unless we've been given permission to do so because of bereavement or other major loss, most of us keep our feelings bottled up. Not so long ago it was considered unseemly to show our emotions in public. The death of Princess Diana in 1997 opened the floodgates of public grief and national outpourings of emotion are now far more acceptable.
But what about private sorrow? I believe we are still too reserved about our own problems and that's a pity. Being made redundant, ending a relationship, anxiety, stress, bullying at work, being a parent of demanding children and unrecognised post-natal depression, are just some of the issues we are confronted with on a regular basis.
Too often we bottle up our feelings labelling them 'unimportant' or 'trivial'. We feel we should be able to cope because there are so many people out there far worse off than we are. We hide our true feelings behind a 'happy' facade or stuff them down with food or alcohol and sometimes drugs. We rush around packing so much into the day we usually don't have time to feel, until something snaps. It doesn't have to be like that. Listening to ourselves and our emotional state is an important aspect of our general health and wellbeing. Finding a space to explore our feelings and experiences with someone trained to listen and support in a non-judgmental way is a positive step we can take for ourselves.
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