Finding the meaning of life or a life of meaning?
Why am I here? What is it all about?
There are questions that evoke deep thought activity within. Many people will have these pivotal times in their lives when they think 'what is the point?' I am not sure that many people will talk about these times with one another.
The time spent in therapy can be searching for some answers, some meaning, some purpose to life.
We might be feeling anxious about death, Irvin Yalom wrote a great book on death anxiety, called ‘Staring at the Sun’. We may be at a crossroads, lost a loved one, a relationship has ended, we reach a milestone in our age, and something has challenged our existence. Some children experience the questioning of life. It has no age limit!
For some, this period of time can be startling if it has not happened before. It may be unsettling and even disturbing. Finding support if you are experiencing distress during this time of change can offer a secure base to go to, and give you time to explore these questions in a safe space. To reflect and to go deeper into the unknown with someone who is there with you, the experience can be enlightening, and for some life changing.
Usually as we travel through various stages of our lives, we will encounter this wonderful question.
I see the question now being an opportunity to develop myself, to also question what maybe, is
not questioned enough.
Finding our own meaning, our own purpose, if we have lost sight of this (maybe we were never really sure), can re-energise us, we may feel that we are turning over the page to a new chapter. There is an internal and external world to be explored and uncovered, there is much to be learned in life and about internal selves and one another. I like to think I will never stop growing, always learning and discovering new insights, enjoying new experiences of life.
It is finding what gives us that deep satisfaction, that inner joy, the gut feeling we get when we are on the right track. For everyone it is unique to them, we will find different ways of living, where one person may feel satisfied with a family, a house, and a 9-5 - another will want to travel the world, be happy being single, and have lots of different jobs. There are no hard and fast rules are there?
In my experience, humans struggle when they feel like they are not making their own choices in life. It is like someone is pulling the strings. Learning to become more self-aware of the choices we make each day can enable us to make those bigger choices. The choice might be not to change anything.
Here are some interesting links to read that I found and would like to share with you that expand on this topic.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
About the author
My name is Sarah Thorpe, I work self employed as a counsellor working in Doncaster with adults, children and their families. I have a background of working with people in maintaining emotional and psychological stability due to life experiences.
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