Feeling anxious this Christmas?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Lyn Reed, MBACP (Registered), Ad.Prof Dip.PC, Dip.PC, B.A., M.A., Adv.Dip.CQSW
30th November, 20150 Comments
Is the thought of Christmas provoking feelings of anxiety? Find it a depressing time of year? Many of us do. There are a lot of expectations on us to enjoy the festive season.
Christmas Day is only one day in a whole year. But it is one which may have grown very large indeed in our own heads. Strange enough, it may seem longer than all the rest of the days in the year put together.
In therapy we can begin to start the process of getting the festive season into perspective.
Why are we feeling anxious about it? Do we feel it looms over us for the best part of the following year? If we can explore the reasons behind our thinking and how we can be more in control of how we feel about Christmas, then we may find what happens to us this time of year is a lot more within our own control than we originally thought.
We can choose to plan how to spend the day or we can take it as it comes.
We don't have to spend it in the way we always have. Therapy may reveal that we may have spent it in a way which pleases other people. Perhaps it is time to spend it how we want to. Is our sense of foreboding related to the pressure we feel under to buy a gift which we really cannot afford or simply do out of habit?
These thoughts can increase our anxiety about the season.
There are many of us who feel lonely at Christmas. We can acknowledge this feeling and then do something to alleviate it - if we wish. We can make inquiries at our local volunteer centre to see if we can help someone who is in the same boat as ourselves. Coping with Christmas alone can be hard at any age so don't be afraid to say how you feel.
We know that helping others helps us in equal measure. And helping a stranger can really boost our sense of self-worth.
Best of all, perhaps, our reflections on Christmas itself may help us find a way of enjoying the festive season in a whole new way which feels more comfortable and authentic.
About the author
I offer a professional, confidential counselling service. I've acquired considerable expertise and knowledge having worked in the social care field for many years. I understand life's road is often rocky!
I offer a good value high quality service especially for those living with anxiety and stress.
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