Feeding your Demons
Look around - how often do we hear phrases like ‘I’m fighting a cold’, ‘she had a long fight with cancer’, ‘the battle of the bulge’, ‘I won’t let my addiction win’, or ‘the war on terrorism’... the list goes on! It highlights the mindset that our culture holds so deeply that we must get rid of what’s unpleasant.
This would be fine if it worked, but evidence shows that fighting what we don’t want actually has the opposite effect. There is much evidence to show that surrender and receptivity is the way to relate to addiction, and that will power is not enough.
Tsultrim Allione’s approach and best selling book on ‘Feeding Your Demons’ may sound anti-intuitive but within this revolutionary approach lies the path to healing, integration and insight. To really turn towards the parts of ourselves with that we usually push away (demonize) is profoundly healing. This process is highly structured and takes one through 5 steps of turning towards the ‘demon’ and then giving it the feeling of what it really needs. For example, an alcoholic may want alcohol, but really needs confidence or relaxation. This generosity transforms the negative blocked energy, often held in the body, into a resource and helpful energy.
This work recognizes that if we don’t listen to to the demon, or the shadow, it feeds anyway. Instead, we can begin to see the parts that we instinctively want to push away as messages from the unconscious. Our dragons guard our greatest treasures!
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