Do you value who you are?
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Jennifer Hope-Spencer UKCP Reg., Reg.BACP, PGC Supervision, BUPA reg.
2nd February, 20140 Comments
What does feeling valued mean to you? For example, does it include others appreciating what you do for them, or a pay-rise at work? A personal perspective of yourself, others and situations, develop from childhood through unconscious absorption of parental, educators’ and carers’ values.
Counselling and psychotherapy help to develop self-value.
What happens when parents, carers and educators don’t give value to children?
The answer: a low self-concept as an adult. Your self-concept includes self-esteem, self-value (or worth), self-image and self-identity.
How do you value yourself?
Self-values link to self-esteem, how you respect yourself and others. If you value yourself and feel valued by others you’ll experience self-respect, and feel confident in the world and be more tolerant of others.
Do you like how you look?
A poor self-image can lead to eating disorders, depression, de-motivation, anxiety and social isolation. Looking at the emotional problems that may cause eating disorders is the solution to the problem.
Do you know who you are?
Knowing who you are gives a personal identity. A personal identity means you can express your personality confidently, meet challenges and develop healthy boundaries for yourself and with others.
Your self-concept are inter-linked components, like a car. A car engine is a good metaphor for a balanced self-concept: a car needs all parts to be serviced and functioning to create a powerful vehicle that can be driven with confidence. Like a car, the human psyche needs a service now and again, to keep all parts functioning powerfully and confidently.
Valuing yourself means you know who you are and believe you can achieve what you set out to do: You know that you have internal resources to cope with life challenges and difficulties.
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you understand where negative messages from childhood, have limited you fulfilling potential in creating a powerful and happy life and valuing who you are.
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