Depression: You Are Not Alone
2nd September, 2009
Most people who find themselves reading this article will be doing so because they think that they or someone close to them might be suffering from depression. I hope in this article to explain what depression is, what causes it and how counselling can help.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
If you think you, or a loved one, might have depression, it is important to understand that you, or they, are not alone.
Depression is a very common illness. Women are more prone to suffering from depression than men*, and depression is said to be one of the reasons most frequently given for visits to G.P’s. According to the NHS, about a quarter of all women and a tenth of men will have symptoms of depression sufficiently significant to interfere with their daily activities at some point during their lifetime.
Depression can present itself in many different ways. Some people go through small, isolated instances of depression and come out of it on their own. Others may need help to recover, or may have much longer and more severe episodes.
And while there may be differences, all depressions have certain similarities.
WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION?
As with any illness, depression, can be experienced through a range of symptoms and to varying degrees. If you are feeling down, you may be starting to question whether this is just a ‘low period’ or whether you are in fact depressed. The medical “fit” list here is helpful but if you are feeling so low that you feel in need of help then that is sufficient reason to do something about it.
The following symptoms are the clinical or medical markers of depression:
Feelings hopeless about life, and that no one can help you. Low self-esteem. Feeling emotional or upset or having to hold back tears much of the time. Feeling irritable, quick to lose your temper and intolerant of others. Feeling worthless or excessive guilt. Not being interested or motivated to do anything, and not being interested in much. Doing less of the things you used to enjoy. Suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming yourself or others. Anxious worrying most of the time or intermittent unsettling thoughts. Significant weight loss or gain. Reduced sex drive. Not wanting to get out of bed, and/or waking in the middle of the night and not being able to get back to sleep. Exaustion on waking. Difficulty concentrating and indecision. You feel you don’t want to see people or you fear being left alone at all. You may have physical symptoms or aches or pains that have no obvious explanation. You feel you have no confidence. You feel that life has or is passing you by. Adopting certain thinking styles, such as “all or nothing” also seeing everything in black or white unable to see shades of “grey”. Generally seeing only hopeless outcomes to your situation, making it impossible to see a way out. And general catastrophising. If you are experiencing a few or more of these symptoms, you need to seek help. Depression is an illness and needs treatment. The good news is, with treatment you can start to feel better. However the individual signs of depression are based on ‘how someone feels’ which can sometimes be confusing as some of these symptoms are common emotions and feelings and every body’s experience is different. Further Info: www.nhs.uk/Pathways/depressionWHAT CAUSES DEPRESSION? Throwing some light on some of the commonly claimed “medical” causes of depression, gives us a better understanding of depression, and therefore a better chance of over-coming it. Here are three main medical areas 1) Medical disease caused by neurological or hormonal imbalances. 2) Certain styles of thinking 3) A result of unfortunate experiences. While all these factors are plausible explanations depression relies on how we explain things to ourselves: how we interpret reality. Genetics In the same way that some people catch a cold that others are able to fight off, your own personal make-up has something to do with how likely you are to suffer from depression. There is some evidence of genetic predisposition towards depression in particular with regard to those forms of depression known as manic depression and bi-polar disorder: if you have a family history of depression this may make you more susceptible. It is however recognised that most depression is learned, not genetic. This learned element to depression arises through the psychological influences of our families and the way that we have been brought up. We pick up particular behavioral patterns from your parents or close relatives For instance, if a child’s mother rarely smiles, or withdraws into her “own world” and does not participate physically or emotionally with her children, the child will not realize it, but this behavior is a classic sign of depression. It is incredibly hard not to be affected by a depressed person, and much of our behavior is learned from our parents. Much depression has to do with styles of thinking, behavior and the way that we conduct interpersonal relationships; there is much scope for depressive styles to be passed down in families. It is essential to understand that depression is much more than simply a disease or a chemical imbalance. The more you understand about the cycle of depression, that affects your mind and body, the better prepared you are to treat it. However, you have to be exposed to a cold virus in order to catch a cold. Doctors do not think that anyone is predestined – or fated - to have depression. Even if you have a susceptibility, depression is brought on by several different factors coming together. Conversely, it is not the factors themselves that necessarily bring on the illness, but whether, and how well, a person has had an appropriate response to their situation or feelings. Some of these factors can include childhood trauma. Physical or emotional neglect or abuse, prolonged periods of stress, bereavement, divorce, loss of a job or birth of a baby. These life events can in themselves just trigger an episode of depression. HOW COUNSELLING CAN HELP If you feel depressed, you may feel lonely and isolated, and as if no one understands or can help you. But you are not alone, as you can see from the statistics – one in four women and one in eight men will experience some form of depression in their lifetime! Depression is a major illness, and needs treatment from a professional who can help you overcome or manage it and get your life back on track. Breaking the cycle The best proven approach for treating depression is what is know as a multi-disciplinary approach (integrative psychotherapy) which utilises a combination of psychotherapeutic theories and concepts. By having someone to talk to, you will no longer feel so alone, or helpless and therefore you will start to break the cycle of depression. Counselling can support you in dealing with stuck or difficult emotions and help identify the issues that prevent you from experiencing affection, pleasure intimacy and a connection to wider community. Counselling can also help you to cope with the negative thought patterns and anxiety that are stopping you from feeling better. The aim would be to increase your self confidence and to enable you to feel empowered.
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