Creating Balance in Turbulent Times
14th February, 2011
So many people I know are experiencing chaos and uncertainty. The current government policy of huge financial cuts has meant that more people are experiencing job losses and early retirement, whereas a year ago they were feeling safe and secure. Relationships break down, children leave home, we suffer a bereavement and in the face of huge upheaval, it is easy for us to lose our centre and feel overwhelmed.
Balance is probably the least talked about quality in aspirational terms. Exposed to an increasingly indigestible diet of hype and ambition in the media, many of us try to emulate society's version of success. We tend to overlook the virtues of the sane and ordinary.
Interestingly, one of the best ways to create balance in your life is to give up control and go with the flow. By hanging on and trying to force an unresolvable situation we ultimately create more stress for ourselves. The only thing we ultimately have control over is our own response to a situation - a partner may leave us, we may lose our job or face eviction - that unfortunately is the 'stuff' of life. Giving up control doesn't mean being a victim to circumstance. It's important to go for what you want and be passionate about everything you hold dear. But what if it's not up to you? Giving up control we allow more space for something equally good to take it's place.
Find practices that help you create balance in your life. Perhaps it might be helpful to find a professional counsellor to talk through your issues with. Many people find solace in solitary walks in the park, others find meditation useful. Listening to music or guided visualisation cds can also reduce stress. What is important is that the activity sustains you and returns balance to your life.
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