Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Caroline Le Vine
14th November, 20120 Comments
It’s a major annual focus for most people. Its significance to the Christian community is obvious and it’s a time to be spent with the family, relaxing and having fun. It’s a wonderful pause in the year. But not for everyone.
For some, Christmas feels anything but festive. Some of you will have been recently bereaved or otherwise missing a loved one who can’t or won’t be with you. Some of you will feel harrassed and angry because, yet again, you’re taking care of all the preparations single-handedly. Some of you will be dreading spending time with the people you “should” want to see but, for whatever reason, don’t want to have in the same room.
If any of this strikes a chord with you, counselling could help. There are many expectations in the air during the season of goodwill. They feel so universal that they go unquestioned. Spending time reflecting on those expectations and exploring which ones you choose to fulfil can be immensely liberating. Regaining (or even discovering for the first time) a sense of being in control and having choices – even at Christmas – allows us to grow a little further into who we really are. When this happens, we are more content.
Of course, we can’t change everything and everyone around us but we can change how we respond. You have the potential to create a happier new year. Find a counsellor and find that potential.
Have a peaceful Christmas and a hopeful New Year.
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