Children Divorce and Separation
Readers are invited to consider the following excerpt from the poem by Kahil Gibran, albeit written in the 1970’s the poem still appears apt today.
‘Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday’.
So let’s look at our relationships with our children, do we treat them as individuals in their own right, or are they extensions of our own selves? What happens if we start to change our prospective?
The challenge is how we influence both parents to think in the same vein, so that the best interests of the child remain paramount.
The author hopes that the poem has the ability to restore and to assist the reader therapeutically especially those currently caught up in child related issues during their experience of divorce and separation.
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