Building up Self-esteem
When we have a high self-esteem life looks good. We can work well, we can have fun and ultimately we have good self worth. However there are times in our life when nothing seems to be going right. We may feel judged or criticized by our loved ones, or work colleagues. Why is it we always seem to manage to take the blame for whatever has happened? That feeling of constant mentally beating ourselves up because we ‘should’ have done better, or we ‘should’ have seen that coming and acted differently.
The next time you experience something negative, for example at work; your workload is increasing by the minute and you’re doing your best to attend every meeting, filling out reports. You notice you are staying longer at work to get it all done & your stress levels are through the roof. Those negative comments are coming in loud and clear in your head. Stop, take a step back and assess what is happening. Look at the facts, that critical voice will soon lose its power.
How do you go about building up self-esteem and self-worth?
•Try asking a few close friends & family that you trust by asking them to write down one positive thing about you.
•Once you have got your list read it to yourself every morning, these are a little like affirmations.
•When you feel comfortable you may want to start reading them out loud.
•Then finally in front of a mirror. Trust the process & try not to rush it, it will take time.
•Take time for yourself and increase your identity. Start up a hobby or an interest. Its ok, you are allowed time for yourself.
•Understand your body by incorporating meditation or relaxation exercises into your daily routine.
•Reflect on your day, write down at least one thing that has been good & made you smile.
By focusing on the positive things within us while learning to accept & love ourselves for whom we are, that is how we gain a good self-esteem and self-worth. Trust in the process and allow your self confidence to blossom in front of you.
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