Be kind to yourself this Christmas
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Sarah Jeffery - West Wind Counselling
1st December, 20140 Comments
How to be kind to yourself this Christmas…
Guess what? We all go a little bit crazy with the stress at this time of the year.
If you’re feeling hassled and hustled, anxious, lonely, sad, angry, bereaved, worried about money, work, family or relationship issues - you’re not alone!
So, amidst all of the festive madness, here are five ways to offer yourself some of the most important gifts of all:
Happiness and peace of mind
- You’ll cope better with the pressure if you can manage to eat well, get some sleep and do some exercise — even just a little bit of each will make a big difference to how you feel.
- It’s really OK to take at least a five minute 'time-out' for yourself every day, doing something you enjoy. Listen to your favourite tune, take a quiet moment with the paper and a cup of coffee, walk the dog...
- Remember: even if people ask, you don’t have to say “yes” to every request.
- When you’re worrying about the details, remind yourself that perfection isn't possible for any of us - and ”good enough” really is good enough!
- If you’re feeling overwhelmed or coping is difficult for you at this time of year, don’t suffer on your own - please talk to someone… If you struggle to talk to friends or family, try your GP or call the Samaritans (08457 90 90 90). Talking really does help.
For many, many people, Christmas and New Year are a really difficult time, because:
- There can be an enormous pressure to make everything perfect, particularly if children are around.
- Sometimes it seems like everyone else is having a great time and we wonder why we don’t feel so festive ourselves.
- If we’ve lost someone we love it can seem unbearable to go through Christmas without them.
- Often we feel obliged to do stuff we don’t really want to, just to keep everybody else happy.
- We put ourselves through a lot of guilt about whether we're doing everything right.
- Relationships can come under huge strain and sometimes it can feel like everything that's already difficult is worse at Christmas.
If times are tough for you just now, please consider giving yourself a really important gift.
Consider finding a counsellor to talk to, who can help you to see more clearly through the difficulties and work out your own best way forward. They can support you emotionally and may often be able to offer a fresh perspective on what is troubling you.
It could be the best gift you ever give yourself – and you deserve it.
I wish you a very Merry Christmas, and a Happy and Peaceful New Year.
About the author
Sarah Jeffery is a counsellor in private practice in Worcestershire and Gloucestershire. She has not yet started her Christmas shopping.
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