Are you a Radiator or a Drain?
12th May, 2010
No, we are not talking about plumbing and heating. Many years ago an article was published in a magazine whereby people were categorised into two groups - Radiators, those who are up for everything and Drains, those who seem to exist merely to suck the life out of any situation.
Imagine for example being stuck in a broken down car on the hard shoulder of the motorway. If you are fortunate enough to have a Radiator with you they will be happily organising games for the children at the same time regaling you with very funny enecdotes so that by the time the RAC man turns up you are feeling positively festive. On the other hand one Drain at a dinner party can have you praying for dessert and coffee so that you can make a quick getaway.
Celebrity Drains could include David Blaine, Lady GaGa and Morrissey. Celebrity Radiators may include Joanna Lumley, Julie Walters and Michael Mcintyre. The lists can go on and on.
On the whole it is much better to associate with Radiators, ditching Drains wherever possible. You can also try radiating a bit more yourself. Smile at people you meet and wish them Good Day - a practice which is probably best avoided on the London Underground, but that's another story.
Oprah Winfrey, when once asked what she wished she'd learned earlier in life said "I wish I'd known how to distinguish radiators from drains". She explained that "radiators" are people who give out warmth, kindness, love, honesty, positivity, energy, enthusiasm and all the good things people need and reposnd to. "Drains" are people who are negative, down beat, suck the energy out of others and don't like themselves.
Life's to short to work with drains.........unless of course you're Dyno rod.
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