A Time to Discover Yourself!
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Sheila Foxgold UKCP Accredited
4th December, 2008
Many people make New Year Resolutions that often fade by mid February, if they last that long. Sometimes this is because the Resolutions are too drastic, setting unrealistic expectations in too short a time. But what if you made the Resolution to simply APPRECIATE YOURSELF?
Often our most neglected and challenging relationship is the one we have with ourselves. We hope and perhaps even expect others to like and love us yet we don’t share those feelings. Casting aside lines, blemishes, sagging and lumpy bits and generally less than perfect looks how do you feel about the person looking back at you from the mirror? Do you love or even like yourself? What difference would it make to your life if you could simply appreciate yourself?
People talk about lacking in confidence and having low self esteem – often brought about by negative messages such as “you’ll never be any good” or “why can’t you be like your brother/sister?” said so often we think they must be true. But they may not be. Oh it may be true that your sibling can run the 100M several seconds faster than you or is a natural whiz at something but neither of these things make them a better person than you; just different.
So thinking about appreciating yourself you might ask the following: -
How hard will it be? (The voice of either or both `The Easy Giver-upper’ role carrying the message “I won’t succeed”
How much will it cost? (The voice of the Financial Planner Role)
How long will it take? (The voice of either the `Practical Planner’ or the `Impatient Hurry-up’ role.)
There are no absolute answers to these questions. Everyone is different. But this might just be one Resolution that you keep.
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