7 secrets of good relationships
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Rachel Shattock Dawson BA (Hons), MA, Registered MBACP.
24th April, 20120 Comments
This is the biggest ‘secret’: Keep talking and keep listening. When couples stop talking to each other the relationship is all but over. It’s good if you can share thoughts and feelings honestly, and know that criticising, shouting or nagging damages self-esteem and ultimately the relationship. Good communicators are better at resolving conflict and are able to apologise when necessary.
Good couples are like a team, joined at the hip and stronger facing the world together. You’ll both have career, money, life and death lows in your lifetime – be there for the downs and you’ll still be there together to share the ups.
The old saying, ‘Couples who play together stay together’ holds true whether you’re 19 or 90. Whether you share a passion for sport, dancing, gardening or travel, the more you enjoy doing things together the more you’ll cement your relationship.
When couples respect each other no-one gets shouted down, walked-over or stuck with all the chores. With love and respect comes fidelity and all the perks of being trusted, loved and appreciated.
Allowing, or better still encouraging your partner to grow and develop, even if it means more time away from the relationship, is a wonderful gift if it’s given happily. If people feel free they don’t feel the need to escape.
Romance and intimacy is as important twenty years down the line as it is during the early days. From holding hands while you walk, to cuddling up on the sofa, set aside some time to just be together. Candles, chocolate and flowers still help too!
Good partners care about how to please their partner sexually. They’re attentive, responsive and tender. As the couple matures, so does a good sex life.
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