10 ways to help you stick with your New Year's goals
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Beccy Stremes Registered MBACP (Accred)
3rd January, 20170 Comments
So, it's the 3rd of January, and some of these goals are becoming a bit tough already huh? Well, here are ten suggestions that might just help you through. If you get to the end of this month, having stuck to your goals, you should be damn proud of yourselves!
You are not alone, I am giving up "vaping", after giving up "smoking" three years ago. So here's what I have found helpful when I have had to give something up.
1) Really take note of your feelings. It's ok to miss something. It will take many many moments of feeling bereft from whatever your addiction is, so be accepting of yourself, and don't expect this to be a walk in the park.
2) Every time you feel that pang for what you've given up, put a timer on your smartphone for an hours time, and try and busy yourself with something else. When the timer goes off, you will feel like you have achieved something. I had the timer on for each hour on the first day. I noticed I haven't put it on today.
3) Really really congratulate yourself when you put your head on the pillow each night and look forward to how you will feel when you have got through another day when you wake up in the morning.
4) Use the inside of a cupboard, to draw great big ticks for each day you've achieved. Celebrate your success by rewarding yourself with something nice with the money you've saved.
5) Write down all the positive things you are feeling about yourself.
6) Have some small activities in reach, when you're really struggling. Actually, knitting is great for keeping hands busy. Other great ideas are little puzzles or a game of solitaire etc.
7) Do a meditation podcast - it will take your mind away from the washing machine head, and give you a break from the thoughts and feelings being evoked by what you've given up.
8) Ask a friend to mentor you. If you're really struggling, pick up the phone and talk to them.
9) Do a visualisation mood board of how you want to envisage yourself being without this addiction. What would you look like; smell like; how would your skin look?
10) If you find yourself giving in, give yourself a kind talk, forgive yourself and just start giving whatever it is, up again.
Let's see how we all do. I'll check in with another article half way through the month and tell you what my pitfalls have been, and maybe you can e-mail me and let me know how you're doing.
Good luck - we can do it!
About the author
Beccy works integratively, blending different theories, in order to offer a unique service to each client. She has ten years experience working with individuals and couples and qualified to degree level,
Her passion lies within helping clients learn how to live their lives happily after change happens.
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