None of us are perfect, and this means we do make mistakes. Being able to apologise and say sorry about these mistakes is a powerful thing. Apologising helps to release us from the guilt we feel, it helps to restore trust and in some cases it helps us save face.
That being said, apologising too much can be a bad thing. For example, how many times have you started a question with “I’m sorry to ask this, but…”? Or said “I’m sorry” when someone bumps into you when walking? Apologising too much can come off as lacking in confidence.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, self-criticism is usually to blame. It could be that we’re too hard on ourselves or have unrealistic expectations of how we should behave, and when we don’t meet these expectations – we feel the need to apologise.
Take a look at the following situations and why you shouldn’t have to apologise when they happen.
1. When you’re...