Around the country lawyers are preparing for ‘divorce Friday’, traditionally the busiest day of the year for divorce enquiries. Firms have already said that they are expecting an increased number of divorces as many people have already made appointments for the first week of 2014.
According to a spokesman from Stowe Family Law (family law and divorce solicitors), January is the busiest month for enquiries, with 30% more enquiries than the second busiest time of year. A study carried out by the firm also found that 18% of British parents consider separation and divorce after school holidays.
Christmas can be a trying time for couples, with many facing financial and/or family struggles. Many clients complain that the stress of Christmas (including cooking, present buying and hosting) leads to the high-pressure environment that conflict thrives in.
Christmas also leads to couples spending a long amount of time with each other, and without work breaking up the time this can lead to heightened emotions. The start of a new year is a time for reflection, and for some this means re-evaluating their relationships – this could be another reason for the increase in divorce enquiries.
Divorce mistakes to avoid:
If you are considering a divorce, consider the following advice.
1. Don’t give up at the first sign of trouble
If this is the first time you’ve considered separating, ask yourselves if you are willing to fight for your marriage. You may find a course in couple’s therapy could help you rebuild your relationship.
2. Don’t be defensive
If you have agreed to divorce, it can be easy for those involved to get defensive about arrangements. Before you respond to your partner, try to monitor what you’re saying and consider whether or not you are being fair.
3. Don’t play the blame game
Taking responsibility for your role in the separation can be difficult to accept however, blaming your partner entirely will only allow problems to escalate. Accepting responsibility during disagreements can help you to reach a resolution quicker.
4. Regain your identity
Remembering who you are away from your marriage is essential after a divorce. What are your passions? What makes you happy? While divorce is an upsetting experience, it does offer you the opportunity to rediscover yourself.