Following the loss of 5 children through miscarriage and missed miscarriage, Zoe Clark-Coates and her husband Andy – both International Directors of a successful global Event Management company – felt compelled to launch a national set of remembrance services for couples who want to formally say goodbye to children they have lost.
Saying Goodbye was launched after Zoe and Andy experienced first hand the lack of grieving platforms available for bereaved families who had lost young children. Whilst there were a number of local services on offer, many were simply not accessible or available on a wide enough scale.
Having seen that the need for this kind of service in the UK was great, the couple invited the Miscarriage Association to collaborate with them in making this happen, and together they formed Saying Goodbye Services.
Saying Goodbye Services has now set up a set of remembrance services happening up and down the country, for people who have suffered the loss of a baby at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy.
Whilst any loss of a loved one is traumatic, losing a child through miscarriage is often a very lonely and isolating experience. Everyone is of course very sorry and understanding at first, but then as time passes the acknowledgment of loss lessons, people move on, and they forget. To them, grieving for someone who never ‘lived’ is difficult, because to them there is nothing to miss.
To a parent however, the loss is far greater, and is not just for their child but also the life they would have had.
If you have experienced a loss then allowing yourself to grieve is a hugely important step, and may mean that you are able to move forward with your life. If you would like to attend a Saying Goodbye service, visit the organisations website for details of locations and dates.