Relationship charity Relate has reported often seeing a surge in calls throughout the summer holidays from both couples and families whose summer breaks have not quite worked out how they had planned.
According to Relate counsellor, Denise Knowles, a rise in temperature and expectations means the potential for arguments can soar.
“Spending more time together without the usual distractions of work and routine can sometimes expose underlying tensions and this can lead to arguments…even choosing the holiday and getting organised for it can cause disagreements.” She said.
So, whether you are looking after your children or just spending more time with your partner than usual, below are some great summer survival tips from Relate to give you the best possible chance of enjoying a conflict free holiday.
1. Plan days out
Make the most of the long summer days and evenings with your partner and make some plans which you are both prepared to stick to. If money is a problem then take a look online for money off vouchers or opt for something which is low cost like a picnic on the beach.
If you are looking after your children then the pressure of constantly keeping them entertained can be stressful. Instead of getting wound up because nothing you seem to do entertains them for long enough, ask them to prepare a wish list of what they would like to do. This will take the pressure from parents and will give the children responsibility. Make sure you give your children a budget though.
If you can’t afford to go abroad this year and you are taking a week at home then make sure you still treat it as a holiday. Don’t respond to work emails or calls just because you are in the same country. Chill out, laze around, spend time with friends and family and enjoy yourself doing the things you love.
3. Cool off
The summer heat can make us irritable and crabby which could lead to arguements. If you have kids then make sure the paddling pool is filled up so both adults and children can cool off, have a fun filled water fight or even take a cool shower.
4. Be considerate
Make sure you compromise when it comes to choosing what to do during the holidays. You and your family won’t always agree and what may be your ideal day out may not be your elderly grandmothers, your partners or your young child’s. Perhaps each have a day where you choose something you would like to do as this way you will all get the best out of your holiday.
Make sure everyone is involved in the packing and preparation for your holiday as this will take the pressure off one individual and will make everyone feel like they are making an equal contribution.
6. Get closer
Use the time you have to get close on both a physical and emotional level with your partner.
7. Talk and listen
Communication breakdown and misunderstandings are the route of many a holiday argument so avoid both by always be open with each other and discussing any expectations, concerns etc.
View the original Relate article.